I can’t tell you how often I ask myself some version or another of this question.
How could I be so blind? So stupid?
How could I not see that I was being lied to and deceived?
How could I not notice the manipulation?
How could my gifts of intuition, my ability to read people like books, fail me so terribly?
How could I have been such an easy target for a narcissistic abuser?
How could I simply not be who I thought I was?
I spend so much time simply baffled by these questions. Even as I write these words, I am shaking my head…
Over the last few years I have learned so many things, and I am so incredibly thankful for the resources that have helped me to see myself and my situation accurately.
Leslie Vernick, author of the book “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage”, has enabled me to put words to my experience. Which is something that, despite knowing how to use my words, I had great difficulty doing. Even answering my own questions seemed impossible.
Another resource that has been an encouragement to me has been the website “Flying Free Now”, which is where I found the content I want to share on this post.
The article that I read there today helped to alleviate so many of the questions I listed above. The words I read breathed a little spirit back into me.